Emotional wellness is a state of balance in your emotions and relationships. It’s about feeling loved, safe, and supported by the people in your life. If you feel like there’s no one around who sees the good in you or that there’s no one who really understands you, emotional wellness could be the missing piece that helps you feel connected to others and happier with where you are in life.
Although emotional wellness isn’t something we tend to think about much, it can have a big impact on how happy we feel and how much fulfillment we experience in our lives. Feeling loved and accepted by those who care about us can give us a sense of security. Having positive interactions with other people makes us happier and less likely to experience stress or negative emotions. Emotional well-being is also linked to many different aspects of our health and well-being. For example, feeling stress or sadness regularly has been shown to be related to higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol and lower levels of the mood-regulating hormone melatonin. The same goes for having less support from family members or friends or trust in other people.
Though it might not seem like it at first glance, emotional wellness is actually quite simple to achieve if we work towards it over time instead of expecting it to come naturally overnight. Here are some tips on how you can increase your chances of achieving emotional wellness sooner rather than later:
Researchers have found that the more time you spend with the people in your life who boost your emotional well-being, the more likely you’ll feel connected and have a positive emotional experience. Spending time with loved ones, especially those who are good at supporting you, can help build trust and increase feelings of safety. When you feel like there’s someone around who truly cares about you and values your presence, it can go a long way toward increasing your level of happiness.
Another way to boost the amount of time you spend with the people who make you feel good is to use the people who make you feel bad as a way of exploring how you feel about certain others. For example, if your family member who gets on your nerves is someone you care about, try spending a little longer with them each day. You might be surprised to find how quickly you can grow accustomed to the person and even begin to appreciate their presence.
The best way to find out exactly what you need to feel emotionally well is by asking those you care about. If there’s someone in your life who you’ve been close to for a while but who seems to have no idea how to support you, ask them to be more aware of your needs. Let them know that you would love to have them support you more, but are not sure how to ask for it. It may be that you just need to be more direct. If there’s someone you feel safe confiding in, let them know that you would love to talk more, but are not sure how to ask for that without feeling like you’re taking advantage of them. It may be that you just need to be more direct. It may be that there’s no need to change who you are as a person in and out of those important conversations. You can just let them know that you would love to talk more and ask how they want you to do that.
Sometimes we are so busy pushing ourselves that we forget how to ask for help. If you find that you are constantly putting too much pressure on yourself, it may be time to ask others to help you ease up a little. Let your friends know that you would love to have a chat or that you need help with a certain task. If you’ve been putting off asking for help, let someone else know that you are behind on something and would love their help. It may be that you just need to let others know that you need help, instead of feeling like a burden because you are not strong enough to pull yourself together on your own.
A happy place is a place in your home, in nature, or in any other environment where you feel relaxed and happy. It can be as simple as taking a moment to reflect on where you are and what you’ve accomplished or simply closing your eyes and breathing in the aroma of what you love. Once you’ve found your happy place, make sure to bring it everywhere you go. If you don’t have your happy place in your home, take it with you when you are out and about. Happy places have been found to have a strong influence on how well you feel. When you feel stress or anxiety, find a place where you can be quiet and where there aren’t any external demands placed on you. You may also find it helpful to have a few things around you that remind you of your emotional wellness. This could include pictures of loved ones, stress balls, or a plant that reminds you of emotional wellness.
When we are under pressure, it’s easy to feel like there’s no time for anything else. This may be especially true for those who are struggling with low wages, lack of opportunities, or the stress of the modern world. While it is important to keep pushing towards your goals and staying focused on what needs to get done, it is also important to take a break and do something that makes you feel good. When you are feeling stressed or anxious, do something that makes you feel relaxed such as taking a walk, listening to relaxing music, or meditating. Try to keep in mind that you don’t have to do everything that’s on your to-do list and that it is okay to take a break from some of the tasks that are stressing you out. Doing so can help you take a step back and get perspective on the big picture. It can also help you refocus on what is important to you.
Emotional wellness is not a destination that you arrive at once and are done with, it is a process. By following the tips above, you can make small changes that will help you create a better, happier life for yourself. If you do this, don’t be surprised if you find that it doesn’t take long for you to feel connected to others and happier with where you are in life, emotional wellness may be closer than you think.